We don't expect friends to be in perfect health all the time. We know that they will have issues to deal with as they walk along their own paths. We encourage them. We pray for them. But we don't take their issues as our own, and we don't take it personally when they need some time to focus on their own personal growth.
In friendships, one person does not hold all the power. So despite the differences in our lives, we try to relate as equals.
We're tolerant of cycles in our friendships, knowing that at different times, each person has different needs, different experiences to go through. Sometimes there's more time and energy to devote to the friendships. Other times, there's less.
We don't expect our friends to be at our side twenty four hours a day. We have our time together and value that, but then we each go our own way. We don't try to force bonding with friends, or even force the relationship to be a friendship too fast. We let ourselves go through experiences together naturally, knowing that that's how bonding takes place.
I'm not an expert on marital love, but we might have a better chance at finding love if we treated our lover like a friend.
God, help me find the middle ground between unrealistic expectations and no expectations at all. Help me cherish my relationships and not confuse heavy drama with romantic love.
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