Today my character defects are not as blatant as they used to be. As much as the disease of addiction is cunning and baffling, so was I. Trust and Honesty were certainly not at the fore front. Reliability was out the door. Character defects can sneak into my life when I am not making a constant effort to be in contact with God each and every day.
Today I find character defects that I did not know I had until I found sobriety. I am more aware of them and can take control of them. i.e. people pleasing, seeking praise. What are your character defects? How will you implement change into your life to ward them off?
My answer is to ask God to remove my character defects, the ones that I am aware of and the ones that I am not yet aware of. A little progress everyday makes me happy. Progress not perfection.
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Great insight.Saw a girl in the elevator with a book about boundries. Amazon purchase made. Love u, keep that beautiful chin up. K
I see that a more and more - folks thinking of being someone who is a "people pleaser" as being a defective trait. Being "cursed" that way myself, I have mixed feelings on it. Really, if you are religious or just moral even, isnt that the sign of a truly good person - one who puts others needs in front of their own? Not saying to do it all the time - but if it is always all about what is good for me and me only - well, if the world is filled with people like that its not a very good world. The kicker of course is to draw the fine line about being kind and considerate of others and letting them walk all over you. I have not found that line myself - dont think I will - but I do know I do not want to other cross over completely and just do what is best for me...couldnt live with myself if I was that way.
True Dave. However there is a difference between pleasing others because it gives you self satisfaction and pleasing others and then not taking care of yourself first.
I am a people pleaser, wanting to take care of others, physically, mentally, and emotionally. There is nothing wrong with love and nurturing. The point where it becomes a problem is when you are taking care of their needs and their wants before you take care of yourself.
If you are not right with yourself, how can you be right for anyone else?
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