Forgiveness

I have a friend that is/has been dealing with her ex-husband's resentment/anger/mental abuse. Because she has children with him she has to deal with him directly. As in the majority of dissolved marriages, there are things that she has done that she regrets. Whether he says this of himself I do not know. Remember it takes two to tango. I shared this with her.

I was in an AA Meeting the other day and the topic was "forgiveness". The key to happiness is to forgive ourselves first. When we forgive ourselves we can then forgive others for their actions. i.e. forgive yourself for the pain you have caused to hurt the father of your children. Name the pain that you have caused him. With this you can begin to forgive him for his actions. Though he may not take the "higher road" like you do or like you can, you have to remember it is not about waiting to see that he is doing this, it is about you having peace, serenity within yourself.

Take a look at "The Lord's Prayer". "Forgive our trespasses as we forgive those that trespass against us". Forgive ourselves so that we can forgive others.

Treat others the way we want to be treated. Simple, right?! Look at it this way, do you want forgiveness or justice from your ex-husband? I would assume forgiveness. You do not want justice. I would not want justice for my past actions, as I assume most would not. I want Forgiveness. Start putting this into practice.